Transform Your Life with These Powerful NLP Techniques

Transform Your Life with These Powerful NLP Techniques
January 18 13:31 2018 Print This Article

One of the most useful skills you can possess is your ability to control your response to events and the people around you. This control is considered one of the basic cornerstones of human achievement and excellence. And this powerful skill can be acquired through NLP.

Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP explores how you feel and think. It also takes into account the inner language you are using to represent your experiences. And that’s just for starters.

You can change your life for the better starting with the following simple yet powerful NLP techniques:

Content Reframing

Content reframing is a good NLP technique you can use if you want to make more choices and be free from the shackles of rigid thinking. At its simplest, reframing involves seeing things from a different perspective.

When you make a comment or ask a question that requires you to see things from an alternative point of view, you can change the way you feel about the situation instantly. With content reframing, you acknowledge there is nothing wrong with the stimulus; it’s your response to it that’s flawed. In other words, you need not change the behaviour or event. What you need to change is the meaning that’s attributed to it.

In life, nothing is inherently positive or negative, good or bad. The meaning you attach to experiences and events is dependent on the frame with which you perceive it. When you change the frame, you also alter the meaning as well as your response to it. As a result, how you feel about it and how you act will also change.



Anchoring is a simple yet very effective NLP technique. In a nutshell, the process involves associating a positive emotional state with an internal or external trigger so it can be accessed again. It is especially useful if you are in an important performance and you want to induce an emotion or a particular frame of mind.

Anchoring uses gesture, touch, or a word as the anchor.  It works because if you relive an intense state and apply a specific stimulus at the peak of that experience, you are linking the two events neurologically. Anchoring is reminiscent of the experiment Pavlov did with his dogs.

As an NLP technique, anchoring can be very useful because it can help you change how you feel in an instant. This can be very helpful in many situations. For instance, it can help you feel confident when you are feeling insecure or it can help you feel calm when you’re upset.

Creating Rapport

Rapport is defined as “a relationship marked by accord, conformity, harmony, and affinity. Simply put, rapport is relating to others in a way that creates understanding and trust. The success of any interaction will depend mostly on your ability to establish and maintain rapport.

This might come as surprising but most business decisions are made based on rapport as opposed to technical merit. In other words, people are more likely to support, agree with, or buy from a brand they can relate with.

So how do you effectively build rapport with others? The following tips can get you off to a good start:


In some contexts, matching is something you do naturally. Observe what happens when you talk to a small child. You might talk more slowly (or more excitedly), or you might crouch down to the child’s height.

  • Body posture – when matching body posture, subtlety is vital. If you are too obvious, you might come across as disrespectful or weird. Start by looking for head or shoulder poses you can match.

  • Voice – matching the volume, pitch, pace, tone, or the type of words the other person uses can be challenging but effective. Fortunately, you don’t have to match all the aspects. Just pick one to focus on. For instance, if the other person talks slowly, slow down as well. If they speak softly, build rapport by doing the same.
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